This isn’t couples’ therapy. It’s therapy for YOU, an individual in a relationship.
Cultivate connection. foster intimacy. trust your partner and yourself.
When it comes to your relationship, you don’t recognize yourself anymore.
Maybe it’s been a few decades or maybe it’s been less than one. All you know is, your relationship isn’t what you thought it was going to be.
You have young kids who do all the extracurriculars and feel like you’re ships passing in the night.
Your job is demanding of you, and so is your partner’s job. You love what you do and they love their job just as much, so you’ve both been okay with prioritizing that. You just didn’t quite realize your job would turn into priority #1 over your relationship, and now all you talk about is work.
Maybe you feel like you can’t talk to your partner because you have nothing to say that they’ll find interesting. You remember having things in common when you got together but either you’ve recognized that those things weren’t actually something you enjoyed or you simply don’t have time to engage in them. Either way, you find yourself wondering what you’ll talk about when you’re retired and have a lot more time together.
Relationships definitely go through ups and downs; you already know that. But THIS particular down—infidelity—is one you’re not at all sure you can get past. You love your partner and the life you’ve built together, but that kind of betrayal hits HARD and DEEP.
Suddenly, you’re looking at yourself in the mirror and you don’t recognize yourself. You definitely don’t feel like you’re in a functioning partnership anymore. You want to stay with your partner but you’re not sure you should, or WHY you should. You used to love making out and going beyond that, but these days, you can’t imagine fostering intimacy with your partner. Hell, you’re not even sure what intimacy IS!
Feeling stuck in your relationship affects not only how you show up in that relationship but also how you show up in the rest of your life.
You may notice yourself pulling away from other people in your life who you love, like kids, parents, siblings and friends.
The stress of your relationship woes bleeds into how you think about and care for yourself, so perhaps you’re eating more and sleeping less.
You may’ve noticed your inner critic getting louder over time.
If work wasn’t a refuge before, it definitely feels like one now.
Maybe you even find yourself leaning into friendships that much harder, building communication and intimacy with someone else other than your partner. You know it’s weird, but at least the other person pays attention to you, right?
heal your heart, heal yourself.
This isn’t therapy for couples.
It’s therapy for you, someone who happens to be in a relationship with another person and who feels like something isn’t right within themselves in the context of that relationship. Therapy that focuses on you and your relationship can help you learn you are enough, that you can trust yourself and your feelings, and that you’re allowed to put down the responsibility of how your partner feels and behaves.
Yes, you read that right: you are not responsible for your partner’s feelings or behaviour.
When they feel good and solid, relationships are reciprocal. There’s a good balance between the partners of managing the day to day tasks, talking about and managing finances, cultivating intimacy, navigating sex together, parenting, caring for aging parents, participating in their community and just generally feeling like life together couldn’t get much better.
That’s what coming to therapy with a focus on your relationship can do for you.
Reconnect with who you are in your relationship AND your life in general
Improve your communication with your partner
Release guilt and shame
Prioritize your relationship values
Cultivate intimacy
Have a better sex life
Trust yourself and, by extension, your partner
therapy for relationship issues can help you…
you don’t have to be alone in your relationship anymore.
Let’s figure you out so you can figure it out.
Frequently asked questions.
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Infidelity is a horrific thing to endure in a relationship—but it doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship. When you start coming to therapy after being cheated on, we’ll work to determine where you want to go from here and figure out how you can get there with confidence. Whether that means dissolving your relationship or staying with your partner, you get to decide what happens for you now.
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Nope! Relationship therapy focuses on how each individual person shows up in the context of their relationship. Your own thoughts, emotions and behaviour affect your partner; how you feel about yourself affects your partner. They’re not responsible for your feelings, nor are you responsible for theirs. But doing your own therapy to learn about who you want to be as a partner can lead to valuable, relationship-altering changes.
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Hell, no! Intimacy is about the connection you have with your partner: how you feel when they enter a room, how you look at that person, how you feel when they’re around and how you feel when they look at you. Intimacy is rooted in emotion, in trust, and in deep knowing of the other person. You can have intimacy in platonic/non-romantic relationships, too! It’s that feeling you get when you hug your very best childhood friend, the one you’ve known since you were five years old, after months of not seeing each other. Sex is a physical connection that doesn’t necessarily require an emotional or intimate connection (although it’s a lot better if it does!). You don’t have to have intimacy to have sex, nor do you have to have sex to have intimacy.